What to Do If You Think You Might Be Losing Yourself

  • If the people you love and trust are telling you they think you’re a disappearing woman, then it may be time to take the blindfold off and listen to what they have said. If you know you’re the kind of woman who has fallen for the wrong kind of man every time, and you are ready to stop the pattern, find a trusted friend or family member to help you out. A therapist can help you identify your patterns of behavior, but it’s really more important to have the support of family and friends, because they’re the ones who are going to be with you.Believe me u can never have anyone as understanding as your parents and good friends because they simply knows how to help you out when you need them..=)

  • Give yourself some space away from your partner. Most women who’ve lost themselves have disconnected from their friends and family. Isolation can be an enemy because it makes you more dependent on your partner. And if there’s any abuse, that will make it easier for your partner to manipulate and control you. Stop the behavior of dependence. Reconnect with your family and friends be with people who will help empower you.Remember to keep in touch with them.Statistic shows many women who are abused my their husband or boyfriend are actually the one who run away from home to stay with their boyfriends(teens nowadays),or the one who not in talking term with their parents.Once the men knows you are relaying on them, they tend to use their power on women…so do keep in touch with your family and friends…=)

  • Take some time to be alone. Some women get so focused on their partner in their minds what he’s doing and what he’s feeling that even when they’re by themselves they cannot find solitude. Disconnect your phone. Turn off the television. Find a quiet activity like journeying or meditation whatever will give you time to connect with how you’re feeling and what’s important to you right now. This is the way to rediscover what you really want out of life.

  • Don’t be afraid to get angry. Most women who’ve lost themselves have lost the ability to connect with their feelings, especially anger. In order to find your voice again, you might need to work on overcoming your fear of expressing your emotions, even the ones that seem negative. Anger will empower and help you separate from your feelings of dependency.
  • Look for healthy relationships that encourage you to have your own life. If you meet a new man and he wants to be with you every night and drops his friends in order to be with you that’s not a good sign. It may feel really good as your brain starts to put on the rose-colored glasses, but if he seems needy now, he may become controlling in the end. You don’t want needy, even if you feel like you do!
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